What’s my number one formula for success in sports? It includes three parts:
- Identify and discard strict expectations or demands.
- Replace expectation with high confidence.
- Replace expectation with simple objectives.
This is the first lesson I teach to my personal coaching students. Allow me to explain…
After working with 1000’s of athletes, I’ve concluded: that strict or high expectations can destroy confidence.
What the difference between confidence and expectation?
Confidence is based on the strength of the belief in your ability or how strongly you believe in your skills.
Confidence is simply a belief that precedes your performance such as when you see a good shot and feel like you will hit a good shot prior to execution.
Expectations, on the other hand, are judgments and demands that you place on your performance usually about outcomes or game statistics, such as the number of points scored in a game.
But confidence does not demand you perform great, unlike expectations. In addition, a confident athlete does not judge the quality of the performance based on prior strict expectations, results or outcomes.
Thus, expectations are unwritten demands or minimum standards that you have about your performance. They cause you to judge the quality of your performance and outcomes.
Why are expectations so harmful to your confidence? In most cases, if you don’t achieve your expectations, it’s easy to question your ability or lose confidence.
Thus, you want to perform without the mental handcuffs of expectations.
If you have high expectations and low confidence, it’s a recipe for failure. You want to strive for high confidence without the judgments that come with high expectation.
It’s hard for most athletes to let go of expectation. But you can replace expectations with small goals to help you focus on the process…
This is where setting simple objectives comes into theformula.
For example, if you expect to score 20 points and 10 rebounds in a game, this causes pressure and a focus on outcome or stats.
Focusing on simple objectives, such as getting open and taking the shot when you have the opportunity, helps you think about good execution, not outcomes.
That’s the formula or lesson I teach all my students. The first place to start is discard your outcome expectations.
To do this, you have to honestly evaluate what expectations you demand of yourself—or what you think others demand of your performance.
Expectations often come from four areas:
- Demands about your score, times, results, or outcome
- Demands about the quality of your performance
- Demands about your mental game
- Demands you feel from others
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