How can other people influence your mental game?
An athlete’s mental game can be heavily influenced by the behavior of parents and coaches. That’s why I prefer to work very closely with my students’ parents and, when I can, coaches.
A case in point: I received an email from a parent after her daughter completed “The Confident Athlete” and “The Fearless Athlete” programs. She said the programs fit her daughter’s to the letter:
“My daughter is a senior in High School and plays soccer. After listening to ‘The Confident Athlete’ and ‘The Fearless Athlete’ audio programs, they appear to have her pegged. In fact, to quote my daughter, she said, ‘I could be the poster child for fear of failure.'”
However, this parent came to the conclusion that part of the problem was the coach. Her coach instilled a fear of making mistakes:
“Her soccer coach is not a real nurturing type of coach and in fact I think this is what has caused her to become afraid to make mistakes. Should we let him know we have identified that she lacks confidence and is afraid to make mistakes? Or is this something that we need to work on by ourselves?” asks the parent.
Good questions and you might already know my answer…
One option is to work on your mental game without directly involving the coach. And you should reap improvements because the mental game is very individual to each person.
However, in some cases, mental coaching I do with athletes is undone by negative coaches who instill fear in athletes or tear down athletes confidence–without even knowing it.
The best option is to inform the coach and ask the coach to make positive changes. Many good coaches look after the well-being, health, and want their athletes to have a positive mindset.
If my daughter has a problem with a coach, I certainly address it–probably more aggressively than other parents would.
However, as much you try, some coaches are not going to change their coaching style to accommodate a parent or athlete’s request.
In this case, athletes must learn coping strategies to deal with adversity and be more resilient to outside influences.
First, they have to learn how to stay confident when not performing perfectly.
Second, they must let go of the fear of mistakes.
Third, they need to trust in their ability even when they know what might happen if they failure or lose.
These three objectives are the ones athletes and coaches learn in “The Fearless Athlete” CD and workbook program…
In “The Fearless Athlete,” I help athletes overcome three common mental game challenges: fear of failure, perfectionism, and lack of trust.
All three mental game challenges are interconnected. Perfectionists, who worked extremely hard and want to perform perfectly often have fear of failure when they compete.
And fear of failure causes athletes to perform tentatively, afraid to make mistakes. When athletes are afraid to make mistakes, they lack of trust in their skills.
If you (or your athletes) want to overcome perfectionism, fear of failure, and lack of trust in one program. I suggest you check out “The Fearless Athlete” CD and workbook program:
Your Mental Game Coach,
Dr. Patrick Cohn
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What are our students saying?
“WOW!!! What a week I had. I was able to perform with a confidence that allowed my style to shine through–no more entering the arena with that “deer in the headlights” look or feeling. I stopped evaluating myself while I was performing, and I actually left the arena after my patterns feeling like I had experienced a lot of fun. Thank you so much.”
~Julia Dreyer, National Champion Equestrian
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D you have a negative self-image of yourself as an athlete that stifles confidence?
No matter ow positive you try to be, are you unable to shake the doubt that rushes into your head when you size up your competition?
Have you labeled yourself as a loser, poor closer, or mediocre athlete and these labels keep you stuck in a rut of self-pity and indecision?
If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, check out The Confident Athlete!
The Confident Athlete CD and workbook program is a 14-day plan for ultimate self-confidence. This program is ideal for any athlete or coach that wants to discover proven confidence-boosting techniques guaranteed to drastically build self-confidence and improve sports performance.
Learn more about one of our most popular CD programs in The Confident Athlete Series…
What are customers saying?
“I first purchased The Confident Athlete to see how the program went and immediately saw results. I then purchased the rest of the confident athlete series and have noticed a dramatic improvement in my level of play or should I say consistency. I currently play NCAA Division 1 baseball for Lamar University, and even my coaches have noticed a change in the way that I approach the game. My attitude and confidence at the plate.”
~Tylor Prudhomme (Listen to his success story)
“I am a ASP world qualifying professional surfer and after beginning the ‘The Confident Athlete’ I had an almost instant change in attitude about my own surfing ability and my mindset going into competition. By using the Confident Athlete strategies, my confidence has done a complete 180 degrees. I won a local pro/am a few weeks back, and just had my best result of the year in one the last big events on the world circuit this last week in Brazil! It is my secret weapon!”
~Shaun Burrell, Professional Surfer (Listen to his success story)
For Young Athletes and Parents – Learn More About How to Help Kids Improve Confidence Quickly!
We’ve got a great program for you called “The Confident Sports Kid: A 7-Day Plan for Building Ultimate Self-Confidence.”
The Confident Sports Kid is a 7-day program for sports parents and kids to boost young athlete’s performance, happiness and success… in sports and life!
The Confident Sports Kid is two programs in one. There’s a manual and CD for parents/coaches, and a workbook/CD for young athletes.
Packed with mental strategies that you and your kids can start using immediately, this program teaches your athletes how to identify confidence busters, proactively deal with them, manage expectations that undermine confidence, and mentally prepare to stay confident when faced with adversity.
What’s more, our program teaches you, as sports parents and coaches, how you may be hurting your kids’ confidence and gives you instructions for changing your behavior in ways that will improve your athletes’ performance, confidence and enjoyment.
Learn more about one of our most popular CD programs in The Confident Sports Kid Series…
What are parents and coaches saying about our program?
“I appreciate the advice to parents as to how to help your child become more mentally resilient to bullying in sports. The specific advice and scenarios are extremely helpful for any child on a team and very helpful in guiding parents, coaches and administrators in how to deal with bullying in sports. I cannot thank you enough for your input, and I am so reassured to know that there are people like you who are writing articles and doing interviews on such timely and important matters.”
“Dr. Patrick Cohn and Lisa Cohn are to be congratulated! Together, they offer a wealth of knowledge, information, and practical mental tools for sports parents on the substantial “mental game” challenges and pressures facing today’s young athletes.”
~Marc D. Anderson, LCSW, MGCP, Mental Game Coach
For Mental Coaches – Add More Value To Your Mental Training Programs!
This workbook series was designed for coaches and mental coaches to use with their athletes.
The Athlete’s Mental Edge workbooks complement your existing mental training program. Each of the 15 workbooks in the Athlete’s Mental Edge System teaches your athletes a specific mental skill to improve their performance.
For mental coaches, this system is ideal for between session education.
For sports coaches, you’ll be able to conduct 15 team seminars using the workbook system.
In the Athlete’s Mental Edge workbook system, you receive 15 easy-to-read, practical Mental Edge Workbooks on PDF, as well as 16 coaches’ game plan MP3 audio files.
What are coaches saying?
“I am really pleased with the Athlete’s Mental Edge workbooks – they are fitting in really well with my coaching! I find they offer a great framework for doing workshop sessions. I have also used the workbooks with a few individual athletes – for the younger ones (12 and under). They are giving a good structure and framework to our sessions. The workbooks have worked well with all of them!”
~Kerri Morgan, Mental Game Coach
“I am impressed with the willingness and openness of Dr. Cohn to share all of his assets (intellectual, products, etc.) with the MGCP students. You have developed an incredible model/package for mental training. Even though we are paying for your service, you are passing on a legacy built on your contribution to the world of sports. Thank you for that.”
~Tony Melito, MGCP